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Top Ten: #5 Top People - Honour your Parents

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Posted by Brad Quiring on February 17, 2015

One’s attitude toward their parents reveals their attitude toward God. The question is, who is the top person in your life?

Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. (NIV)
This command goes back to the very beginning when God created everything. God is powerful, intelligent and very creative. He has a purpose and plan for everything he has created. There is order in what he has created. There is a way of doing everything.
We need to take these truths into consideration as we study the 10 Commandments.
God created everything, including people. We didn’t evolve into human beings, God created us in His image and likeness. We share the “spiritual DNA” of God. In other words,
God is our Father!
Now, we need to clarify something about “God is our Father.” He is our “father” in the sense that he created every human being and gives life to all people. All people were created in God’s image and likeness. God has given each one a purpose and plan for their lives.
Just because God has designed and made every human being does not mean that He is every person’s Father in a relational way. We are not born as God’s children as many philosophies and religions teach. This is what the Bible says:
4 But when the set time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under the law, 5 to redeem those under the law, that we might receive adoption to sonship. 6 Because you are his sons, God sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, the Spirit who calls out, Abba, Father.” 7 So you are no longer a slave, but God’s child; and since you are his child, God has made you also an heir.
We’re children of God only because God made us his children through faith in Jesus Christ – both his person and his work.
God is the model of the parent and He calls us to honour our parents because our attitude toward our parents and others in authority stems from our attitude toward God Himself.
Why should we honour our parents?
(Source: Stuart Briscoe, Playing by the Rules, p. 80)
1.True LIFE, “So that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12
Life is found when we obey God and recognize his authority by recognizing the authority of our parents and family
2. True SUCCESS, “that it may go well with you in the land” Deuteronomy 5:16. Success in life is beyond financial
3. It is RIGHT, “for this is right.” Ephesians 6:1
This is one of the hardest reasons for us to accept. In one sense it is like God saying, “Obey your parents because I said so!” It really is establishing how things were always intended to be by God - the original creation order.
This obedience and honouring comes from the heart. Honouring always begins with a willful decision to honour our parents and those in authority
4. It PLEASES THE LORD “for this pleases the Lord.” Colossians 3:20
Pleases means it “Satisfies” God. God established his will and way, when we obey our parents we are following His way and he is satisfied.
We also notice that when we honour our parents and those in authority, it gives them satisfaction, which in turn comes back to us in the form of a good relationship
What about MY parents? How do I honour them?
God is our perfect parent. He created man AND woman in his image, meaning the individual distinctions between men and women are part of his overall character.
But let’s make it clear, God is NOT like our parents. Our parents are all imperfect. There is no such thing as a perfect parent except God Himself.
God has called children to honour and obey their parents as if they were honouring and obeying God. THIS IS THE DIFFERENCE!
Focus on God
We need to love them and forgive them for their mistakes
Obey them to their faces and behind their backs to others. In what you say and how you treat them.
A Note to Parents
1. BE PARENTS!
  • No excuse for not raising your children in the way of God
  • This is not job of church, but church has a part to play.
  • School, society, friends, internet and TV are not the causes of our children’s rebellion, it is their own decision - but take yourself out of the rebellion equation by raising them according to Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”

2. Obey God
If you need some counsel, advice or access to different resources to help you be a better parent or to help you honour your own parents, come talk to me. brad.quiring@gmail.com