Marriage is the oldest “institution” since creation. It is part of the very beginning. Is it just a “civil union” or is it something deeper? When we study the whole Bible, we see that things go far deeper than the surface appearance.
Marriage represents the true union of God in the Trinity.
Genesis 1:1, 2
“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. 2 Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.” (NIV)
1 Corinthians 2:11
For who knows a person’s thoughts except their own spirit within them? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. (NIV)
I and the Father are One (NIV)
John 14:7 -9
7 If you really know me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him.”
8 Philip said, “Lord, show us the Father and that will be enough for us.”
9 Jesus answered: “Don’t you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’? (NIV)
In these verses we are introduced to three distinct people, yet each one is the same…but different.
There is one God.
- But God exists in three separate persons, yet He is one God
- Each of these persons – God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit – is equally God with the same attributes, same powers, same authority, same glory.
- Even with this: they are separate personalities who have taken on distinct roles.
All of this works together in perfect unity, harmony and agreement.
Now, let’s look at people
God took two distinct people and made them
26 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” 27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. 28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (NKJV)
· Human beings are made in God’s image and likeness. They have the soul and spirit with the “Spiritual DNA” of God and a place and authority over creation.
Source: Matthew Henry Unabridged Commentary, Genesis 1
This was the “quick version” of how God created people, let’s go to chapter 2 of Genesis to see the details:
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. (NIV)
God took two distinct people and made them ONE. READ Genesis 2:24, 25
- Distinct people
- Perfect unity
- Perfect harmony
- In Agreement
- Nothing hidden or needing to be hidden
This is a perfect visible model of the Trinity.
So what does this have to do with marriage, adultery and the 7th commandment?
Adultery is a lack of faithfulness to the person to whom someone has promised to join in unity as God is unified in the Trinity and to believers in Jesus. Adultery is an indication of someone’s view of God’s unity in the Trinity and God’s relationship with His people.
Adultery goes beyond a sexual act – every sin begins in the heart and eventually comes out in our actions.
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Jesus speaking here, teaching the whole truth behind the law: It has to do with the heart and mind. Looking at a woman lustfully (coveting, desiring, deliberate) is not the “first look”, it’s the “second look” and the thought that goes into it.
What do we do?
1. Understand God - Through these 10 Commandments we have been introduced to God, his power, authority and purity. When we understand WHO God is, we will begin to live according to that, because we are made in His image.
2. Understand Marriage – Marriage is a representation of God’s relationship with His people, those who truly believe in Jesus Christ
a. Loved sacrificially
b. Cared for completely
c. Secure for eternity
3. Protect your relationship
a. With God
b. With others who believe in Jesus
c. With your spouse
d. DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO DEFEND THESE RELATIONSHIPS!
Love and commitment is always demonstrated. God demonstrated his love for us in sending Jesus to pay the price for all of our sins in our place.